Typical dating time before engagement
Hey, it’s fine; you’ve been hit by the stupid stick and there’s not a whole lot I can do. No, not even in ‘swans that mate for life’ — geneticists have definitive evidence that even they do their fair share of flitting about. And when the male and the female mate, they actually fuse and become one slug.
But please, — including your female friends, and your parents and your sister? If that’s your idea of a healthy relationship, be my guest.
Consult reliable outside opinion before taking the plunge. Prairie voles are primarily monogamous, and montane voles are primarily horndogs.
4) Make only promises you can keep regarding monogamy. Keep in mind that only 3% of all mammalian species form any kind of monogamous relationship . For both you and her, with the man slightly more likely to do it than the woman.
The wise men of the east say that the knife can’t cut itself, and the tongue can’t taste itself. But other than that, every other species has excursions, technically called. Chimpanzees and bonobos, for example, tend to go bananas with their voracious sexual appetites.
And you are too close to yourself to be able to see clearly what you’re getting yourself into. Gorillas, not so much (although each alpha male keeps a nice harem, which isn’t strictly monogamy in my book).
Don’t build it on the flimsy leaves of infatuation. Dude — you have no idea who you’re marrying until you marry her.
Divorce is a terrible, awful, miserable thing — especially if there are worldly goods and children involved.Forever is a really, really long time to be doing the sacred bone dance with one and only one woman, buddy. It is possible to have sex outside of your primary relationship and still love one another and still have a great family life.And it need not be guilty, surreptitious or, on the opposite end of the spectrum, going whole hog swinger mode. Cheating is more about betrayal of trust and breaking of a promise than some bodily act. Other cultures don’t get so bent out of shape when it comes to extra-pair couplings.Russian, Japanese, French, Swedish, Brazilian people — heck, most of the rest of the world — have such matters already baked into their mores.Go figure out what works for them, and then figure out what works for you. This is more of a personal peeve, so I’m going to make this optional rather than mandatory.