As a result, hurt feelings and resentment may follow.
I would suggest that if you’re going to have sex while you are separated, make sure that you are doing so because you want to express and share your feelings at the time, and not as a way to lure your spouse back or to play emotional games.
While I concede that you will eventually need to address any problems, the time to do so isn’t during a date that really should be fun.
Many people don’t even realize that they are doing this until they look back on the date and ask themselves what went wrong.
They’ll take their spouse to the location of their first date or continue on with their Friday night traditions. But I would suggest not always relying on what you did in the past.
You want to create a sense of new adventures and fun.
Try To Find New And Exciting Activities That You Haven’t Experienced Before.
Although It’s Tempting To Revisit The Past, Focus On The Future As Much As You Can: The vast majority of people who contact me about this issue also tell me that their date destinations are usually either the old standbys or based on attempts to evoke nostalgic memories with their spouse.
If You Can, Agree On The Specifics Of The Dating Before The Separation Actually Takes Place: The optimal way to approach this is to agree with your spouse on how this is going to go before one of you actually leaves the home.
But, many couples aren’t quite sure about how to approach this.
I’m often asked for insights on how to best handle dating while you’re technically in a trial separation.
Many people intuitively know that this can be an important part of the process.
After all, if you can regularly date your spouse again and this goes well, that’s part of rebuilding your marriage and showing your spouse that the two of you can have fun, connect again, and still have a spark on which you can and want to rebuild.