Dating a recently separated man with kids
And, while your guy may not have initiated the divorce, it’s good to find out if he wanted it.“You want to suss out that he is not still pining for his old life,” Durvasula says.
Other bad signs: Your guy puts the blame for the demise of his marriage on his ex, or says he’s learned gross generalized lessons about women or marriage based on his experience, Cilona says.
And, while experts say the divorce rate is now lower than 50 percent, the odds are still pretty decent that you’re going to date a divorced dude at some point.
While there's nothing wrong with dating a guy who's been previously hitched, there are some potential issues that can crop up.
I wish you the best of luck in your decision as there really are no easy answers when one decides to date a divorced parent. 2 older (in their 20's) from his first marriage of 10 years and 3 younger (10,6 and 4) from his most recent marriage of 12 years. Then the phone calls from him continued and going to dinner, then we took a weekend away. So in my mind he is wanting to obviously continue growing in this relationship. But maybe they are right when they say it just gives him the reason to not be completely committed to future plans. Bt the age issue scares me and the fact tht he has five kids from the Same woman scares me too. Regardless of any other issue, it takes a special person to raise 5 kids.
I hope I helped a little bit in your decision making process as each individual and circumstance is different . He and I work together and become close friends for a year. Friends of mine tell me I shouldn't be the "understanding", "patient" and "take your time with your feelings" woman.